Friday, April 24, 2009

I follow

I have always been a follower. It was easier. I never had to think for myself, I could just follow someone who would think for me. It all started in kindergarten when Suzi Stanhope said, " Come on follow me to the swings." It was so easy to fall into this role. I always had lots of friends because I always agreed with what they said. People like that you know, they like when someone listens and does things just like them. It makes them feel strong. I have made a lot of people feel powerful and self confident. I thought I was happy all these years, but I was wrong. I have discovered you can only follow for so long, that finally one day it is if a cloud dispersed and you realize that maybe you have spent you whole life following people and never being true to yourself. When that happened to me I packed a bag, grabbed my car keys and left that town where all I did was follow. That was ten years ago today and I follow only my own dreams these days and while I may not be as well liked and have as many friends as when I followed, I am happier.

11 comments:

Rinkly Rimes said...

If you THOUGHT you were happy you were! We can't all be leaders.

Understanding Alice said...

youre right you cant just spend all your time following everyone, I guess its a case of discresionary following..

A Girl Named Me said...

Good for you for following your dreams! It takes real courage to pack up and move away and go after the things you want most.

xoxo

floreta said...

i've also been a follower all my life. while you mention it makes the other people feel strong, it makes ME feel a bit weak..
i believe i will always be a natural 'follower'.. there are some strengths to it too. for example, i believe that i am a nice, fun person to be around. i can make people laugh, etc. there also needs to be a balance though so i commend you for following your dreams!

Dee Martin said...

I think we are all followers and leaders. Even following someone involves a choice whether we are conscious of it at the time or not, and there is always a certain amount of courage involved in choosing. We just make different choices in different seasons of our lives and hope that we think it was all worth it in the end. Maybe there was time for you to be happy following someone else and now is a time to be happy going your own way. I don't think it is all so black and white. It sounds as though you are enjoying the journey and maybe that is the main thing :)

Tumblewords: said...

I've mostly been a leader, I think. Hardly ever had any followers, probably. Good post. I can feel it all.

b said...

Be just a little of both...then people will never know if what they are doing is their idea or yours. It is so much fun to follow by leading. Does that make sense? (I think that is what a good teacher does.)

b

americanising desi said...

very well written :)

i think a part of us follows and a part leads. it is the balance that strikes the equation right!

http://eternitycallsus.blogspot.com/2009/04/i-follow.html

danni said...

you may have been happy after all those years ago while you were busy growing into your own shoes and good for you for the courage to act on your heart's wish when you needed to - wonderful post!!!

Jennifer Hicks said...

I think following simply leads us to ourselves and the truth....

Tess said...

Bravo!